Trigger for some, dealing with pregnancy and loss.
I research misdiagnosed miscarriage for 3 days before I boil over with anger/frustration/fear and call the EPU back.
Misdiagnosed miscarriage is rather common I find, and that’s quite scary.
The baby is still there and I need answers.
I don’t see how they can rule out a pregnancy purely by HCG levels alone, especially in the very early stages.
I don’t, even if they are correct in their diagnosis, understand how they can deliver such news so badly.
I don’t understand how we (mothers) are supposed to just carry on with life and just wait for our babies to leave us with no further tests, support or really any knowledge of whats going on with our bodies and at the very least what to expect.
It was really a case of ‘this one is not ok, you can try again.’ That is very difficult when you really wanted ‘this one’ and ‘this one’ is still inside you and you don’t particularly want to try again.
I speak to another Lead Nurse who is compassionate and kind, the end result is I am to go back sometime next week if my pregnancy tests are still positive which is at least something I guess.
However I’m guessing that it will most likely still be positive after 1 week as I’m led to believe that the HCG levels take some time to level off after a loss anyway.
I ask that if I do (as expected) experience a loss of this pregnancy, what am I supposed to do??
Why on earth do they not routinely offer this information?
I need to know what I should do as I have no idea what to expect.
When should I ask for help if things don’t go as expected? What even is the ‘expected’??
Will there be pain? Do I need to go to hospital?
She helps me with some of my concerns but I don’t feel an awful lot better.
She explains that at this stage no one has no idea really what to expect.
Super then (!)
I wish I had never bothered going there in the first place.